MOJ MUELLER:
Women, Sex, Power, Love, Men, Politics & Narrative Reframing
The “First Time” Project
EVERYONE REMEMBERS THEIR FIRST TIME, RIGHT? Loving, traumatic, quick, painful, joyous, funny, violent, drunken, stone cold sober, silly, too young, too old, overdue, in a truck, a car, a field, a motel room, the marriage bed ~ all of this and more makes up a slice of our, women’s, first experiences of sex.
IF YOUR EXPERIENCE WAS ANYTHING EVEN REMOTELY LIKE MINE, growing up in rural America during the 60s and 70s, ‘the bases’ were attained slowly or quickly over time, and there was constant discussion regarding who had ‘done it’ or not, beginning – as I recall – in middle school.And, by the time I’d ‘done it’, at the ripe old age of 19, I’d certainly visited first, second and third base and also fought off not one but two of my ancient seeming, gross, married with children, male teachers, so maybe it was time to hit a home run. And, for the record, I hate sports metaphors, but until we feminist the language, here we are – playing fucking baseball. Wanna Play? Want to share your story? Let’s balance, reframe, and change the perspective of an overwhelmingly male narrative of sexual initiation, by telling women’s stories, women’s experiences …
First Time Stories
The First Time: O.P.
Posting this again, original poster and post (O.P.), urging you to write for the project, or spread the good word and get your friends to do so in your stead... with my deepest gratitude. The First Time – A letter, brief (?) tale, and request to a few of my...
The First Time: Lost
*Submitted by anonymous I casually say, “Who in your friend group has had sex?” “Lost their virginity? Oh. I’m not sure? I don’t think very many, if not any.” I say, “You know the first time hurts.” My niece, “Right, you said that your first time guy hurt.” I...
The First Time: The 1st Big Oh-oh-ooooh!!
*happy hump day!! The first time I had an orgasm I was twenty-three, and while I may have had other orgasms previously, I suppose, I hadn’t really had all that much sex, let alone great sex, by that point in my life, so who knows? In other words, I wasn’t sure. This...
The First Time: In the Crosshairs
I am one of those young women who, at the age of sixteen, began to feel that virginity was a burden that needed to be shed. I was tired of reading about sex in all those great paperbacks of the seventies while simultaneously diddling around with my boyfriend while he...
The First Time: Is That All There Is…
Thank you and major snaps to my first respondent, who sent the following, anonymously re: The First Time: My first time having sexual intercourse was a letdown. I remember lying there, in my boyfriend’s dorm bed during freshman year of college, thinking what a...